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Post by harmonystarr on Jun 19, 2011 0:34:42 GMT -5
I know that dealing with rape and molestation is never easy, but please know that you are not alone in your suffering. I have suffered both rape by a stranger and being molested by a family member. It has not been easy to get past either one. I think one of the hardest things for me was to stop blaming myself. I have never told anyone about the stranger rape before and I think that is because when I told my mom I was being molested by my brother she told me not to lie about that it would tear the family apart. So I didnt think anyone would believe me when I was raped. I have struggled with my self esteem ever since my brother started molesting me. For a LONG time I blamed myself. Thought if I was a better person it wouldnt have happened (that is totally not true) or that I should have fought back harder when I was raped (but he probably would have killed me) Anyway I just wanted to let everyone know that this happens so often and it is NEVER the victims fault no matter what. NO ONE deserves to be raped. If anyone needs someone to talk to they can hit me up on here or on fb. I will gladly listen to anyone that needs it. <3 to all of you
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Post by steellily on Jun 19, 2011 16:00:32 GMT -5
My mother told me I was a liar as well.
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Post by electprogeny on Jun 19, 2011 16:18:05 GMT -5
That is SUCH a common reaction and I do not know why. I don't know if it's the fear of what having to deal with that will mean, or if it's a reminder of their own pasts or what.
All I know is that I don't understand it.
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Post by opheliadrowns on Jun 21, 2011 0:04:12 GMT -5
I was sexually abused by family members from the time I was between 3 and 4 yrs old until I was was 7 years old. I was molested by a stranger when I was 20 and raped by a coworker when I was 22 years old.
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Post by sharilla on Jun 21, 2011 21:51:16 GMT -5
I know that dealing with rape and molestation is never easy, but please know that you are not alone in your suffering. I have suffered both rape by a stranger and being molested by a family member. It has not been easy to get past either one. I think one of the hardest things for me was to stop blaming myself. I have never told anyone about the stranger rape before and I think that is because when I told my mom I was being molested by my brother she told me not to lie about that it would tear the family apart. So I didnt think anyone would believe me when I was raped. I have struggled with my self esteem ever since my brother started molesting me. For a LONG time I blamed myself. Thought if I was a better person it wouldnt have happened (that is totally not true) or that I should have fought back harder when I was raped (but he probably would have killed me) Anyway I just wanted to let everyone know that this happens so often and it is NEVER the victims fault no matter what. NO ONE deserves to be raped. If anyone needs someone to talk to they can hit me up on here or on fb. I will gladly listen to anyone that needs it. <3 to all of you I feel your pain as it is my own as well. Our stories are so very similar. It haunts me, not on a daily basis, but some nights I wake up shaking with silent sobs, tears running down my face.....wishing and hoping that someone will hold me and rescue me from the pain and fear. |
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